May I Have A Wurd Please

I have always believed that if you have one true friend in your life, then you should consider yourself very fortunate. Just like anything else, individual people are going to have different ideas about what it means to have or be a friend. I recently was in a situation where I thought I had a pretty close friendship with someone, only to realize that I didn't know that person AT ALL! Did I also mention that you should never assume anything, either? That includes friendship. Sometimes you find out how people really feel about you in the strangest, most unexpected ways.

I have a recurring theme in my life. I get too involved in things that, at the end of the day, should never be an area of focus. Plain and simple. I did something today that I should have done 3 months ago. When I did it, I felt bad. But only for a moment. As I sit here now, I feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders. Don't ever give your ALL to things that don't deserve your ALL. Period!

I think we all have been there. We start our day optimistic, hopeful, and somewhere along the way, if it can go wrong, you'd better believe it will. I learned a long time ago not to expect anything. Nothing! Not in any situation, or under any circumstances. You are probably saying to yourself, Annette, that is pretty cynical of you! I think it's actually the opposite; I think I'm just realistic. Sometimes we envision and glorify situations in our head when they never really even deserved the space at all.

I 100% know that God puts people in our paths for a reason. We don't need to understand why, but we do need to pay attention. Several years ago, around May of 2021, my stepdaughter and her husband were having marital issues. They were living in Kansas, stationed at Fort Riley. With the distance between us, it was hard to get a handle on what was going on between them, and my husband was concerned. We decided it was time to take a road trip to Kansas.  My intuition was at full force; I just knew that something was very wrong. I sat down, opened Facebook, and typed in my stepdaughter's name.

A few weeks ago a person at work said to me "You must have a lot of time on your hands" I know the person is not a fan of mine and I took the offhand remark as a subtle dig. It definitely made me think. 

A long time ago, I realized that to strive to be the best, to pursue perfection, was nothing but folly. It's impossible to be perfect. There will always be someone smarter, thinner, prettier, richer, funnier- well, wait a minute. I draw the line at funnier. I think the greatest compliment someone can ever give you is that you made them laugh. I really came to realize how important laughter is for one very particular reason. I was on the way home from my husband's memorial service.

So I've been married a couple of times, had some relationships along the way, always with some degree of happiness and heartbreak. But I have to say, the only relationship I've ever had without hiccups has been my relationship with God.

Two times this past week someone has told me that I made them smile. That's a wonderful thing to hear about yourself. It's a lot of pressure though too. Until I remind myself that I'm not doing anything but being me. No pressure.

My grandfather came to the United States from Naples Italy to join his father who had come here years before. He was a simple hard-working man who loved his family and he loved his roses. My grandfather was a barber for 50+ years. He owned two pieces of property on the same lot in Lockport, New York. The front home in which he lived had a storefront in which he operated his barbershop. His name was Leo and of course his business was Leo's Barbershop.

Wouldn't it be something else if people came with instruction manuals? If I came with one, it would probably say something like this. Grab this woman firmly by the shoulders, hold tightly, shake vigorously, and ask repeatedly, what the hell is wrong with you? 😆 I can be a difficult person; this I know to be a fact. I have had many people tell me that over the years. My husband used to call me the Lone Ranger because I had a hard time relying on anyone to do anything for me. In the past, I've been stubborn and held on to grudges like they had handles. I've cut off my nose to spite my face more times than I care to think about. I became the living, breathing example of I can forgive, but I'll never forget. Not a good way to be.

My famous Banana Surprise Muffins with Buttermilk Syrup

The old saying that a negative attitude will never give you a positive life is 100% correct. If there is one thing I have learned in life, it's that no matter what, you have to look for the positive in any situation. I believe that words have power. Believing that things will be a certain way gives that situation power. I have several positive affirmations that I say out loud to myself every day. Even Snoop Dog knows the power of Affirmations. Have you ever listened to the song he wrote for his Grandkids? It's called Affirmations, and I was never a musical Snoop fan, but the guy has a good heart, and he's on to something with that song, and that's something I can get behind. One positive thought or word to someone can change the trajectory of the day.